Is It Better To Have Loved & Lost?

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A very good friend of mine is experiencing major heartbreak right now, which got me to thinking about the oft-repeated quotation: “It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

But is it better really???

If you have loved and lost…

1. You’ll have first-hand knowledge of how wonderful it is to love and be loved. But the moment you lose that love, you’ll spend the rest of your life looking for the same euphoric high. If you get a second chance, well and good. If you don’t, you could end up wishing you never knew what it was like in the first place.
2. Things will never be the same again. It’s just like finally having known the freedom, ease and convenience of having your own car, then suddenly having to take public transportation again. Sucks, huh?
3. You might spend the rest of your life pining for your lost love.
4. You’ll forever be haunted by the “what-if’s”.
5. You could end up a cynic.

If you’ve never loved at all…

1. Ignorance is bliss. When you don’t know what you’re missing, it won’t matter to you if you never find it at all.
2. But then again, you’ll forever be wondering what the hype in all those movies, paperbacks, telenovelas and love stories is all about.
3. No man is an island. And things can get pretty lonely when you’re solo far too long, especially when friends start living their happily-ever-after’s one by one and you start feeling like an extra finger on a glove everytime you go out with them couples.

Share with me your thoughts on the subject, people!